A Godly Wife using Discretion ~

 

Dear “keepers” of the home ~

I read this today and I though about how loose so many of today’s women are in the world and even in our churches. My heart is saddened at how many marriages are falling apart that are well over 20 years into the making. Why ? What is happening? What would cause 50 plus year old men to abandon their homes and families after so many years of investment into a marriage? Could it be a woman with no discretion that lured him from his home?

I feel like most of the blame would fall on women that have no discretion. Either they have never been taught or had discretion modeled for them or they just are totally unaware of the “power” a woman has over a man. When a married woman admires or flirts or is too friendly with a man other than her husband all kinds of red flags should be waving. But unfortunately, so many women of today have no flags or bells and then end up in a relationship with another man that totally destroys them both and their marriages.

Below is a list that I encourage you to read and seriously think on each question. I was challenged to reevaluate how I conduct myself around other men and to try even harder to give all reverence and public admiration only to my husband and to opening display my allegiance to him and him alone.

May God bless each of you as godly housewives and women of God. Lord willing that we would be a light set on a hill. An example for women especially younger women to follow. Let our lives be full of discretion in all our areas of dress and speech and conduct, that our homes would be fortified and protected from the enemy. In Jesus Name ~

Learning to daily trust Him,

Teresa

 

Simple mending ~

 

Becoming a Woman of Virtue

 

by Nancy Leigh DeMoss

“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (Prov. 14:1).

1. Am I building up my house or tearing it down?

2. Am I investing in my marriage? Am I nurturing the heart of my marriage?

3. Do I frequently express admiration and gratitude to my husband?

4. Am I reserving the best of my physical and emotional energy for my family?

5. Am I creating a climate (through words, actions, and attitudes) that makes my husband want to be at home?

6. Am I content to be “at home”? Am I finding my “fulfillment” through reverencing and serving my husband and family?

7. Do I reserve intimate communication, looks, words, and touch for my husband? Am I giving of my emotions, attention, affection to a man other than my husband?

8. Am I meeting my husband’s sexual needs?

9. Am I trustworthy? Is there any behavior or relationship I am involved in that I am keeping from my husband? Have I been totally honest with my husband?

10. Does my husband have the freedom to be totally honest with me?

11. Am I fueling sensual thoughts and desires through books, magazines, TV programs, music, or movies that are not morally pure?

12. Have I become a “refuge” for a man who may be struggling in his marriage?

13. Am I looking to a man other than my husband (pastor, counselor, colleague) to be a primary source of counsel or to fill an emotional vacuum in my life?

14. Do I have a more intimate relationship—physically, emotionally, or spiritually—with any man than I do with my husband?

15. Does my demeanor tend to be “loud and defiant,” or do I communicate a meek, quiet, and submissive spirit?

16. Am I a “wall” or a “door” (Song of Songs 8:12)? Am I a “loose” woman? Do I communicate to the men around me that I am “available”? Does my demeanor invite them to “partake” of intimate parts of my body, soul, or spirit? Do I engage in flirtatious speech, looks, or behavior?

17. Is there anything about my speech, actions, dress, or attitudes that could defraud the men around me?

18. Am I discreet and restrained in the way I talk with men at work? Is my conversation ever loose, crude, or unbecoming for a woman of God? Am I expressing admiration for a man that should more appropriately come from his wife?

19. Does my dress help men to keep their thoughts pure and Christ-centered? Is my dress feminine and modest?

20. Have I erected (and am I maintaining) adequate “hedges” in my relationships with men? What are those hedges?

21. Am I currently in a situation that is (or could become) compromising? Am I in a situation that could appear to others to be compromising?

22. Would my husband, as well as other men and women who know me, say that I am a woman of moral virtue and purity?

23. Have I purposed in my heart to be morally pure? Am I making myself accountable to my husband and to another godly woman for my walk with God and others?

“Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies” (Prov. 31:10).

© Revive Our Hearts. Taken from Becoming a Woman of Discretion by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. Used with permission

* Take notice of this passage below and consider how vulnerable men really are to the “power” of a women that is using her luring powers.  

 Proverbs 7 
King James Bible

Warnings about the Adulteress

 

1My son, keep my words, and lay up my commandments with thee.

2Keep my commandments, and live; and my law as the apple of thine eye.

3Bind them upon thy fingers, write them upon the table of thine heart.

4Say unto wisdom, Thou art my sister; and call understanding thy kinswoman:

5That they may keep thee from the strange woman, from the stranger which flattereth with her words.

6For at the window of my house I looked through my casement,

7And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding,

8Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house,

9In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night:

10And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart.

11(She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house:

12Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.)

13So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him,

14I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows.

15Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee.

16I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt.

17I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.

18Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves.

19For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey:

20He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed.

21With her much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him.

22He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks;

23Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life.

24Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth.

25Let not thine heart decline to her ways, go not astray in her paths.

26For she hath cast down many wounded: yea, many strong men have been slain by her.

27Her house is the way to hell, going down to the chambers of death.

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Published in: on October 24, 2013 at 10:58 pm  Comments (1)  

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  1. GOD BLESS AMERICA! HOW DID FAMILY VALUES OF THE 30’s, 40’s AND 50’s, MODESTY, MORALS, CHRISTIAN CONVICTIONS, FAMILY SIT-DOWN DINNERS VERSES MCDONALD’S DRIVE THROUGHS, FALL SO FAR TO THE WAYSIDE?

    I WOULD GIVE ALMOST ANYTHING OTHER THAN MY BIBLE TO HAVE BEEN RAISED TO SEE MY DAD AS HEAD OF HOUSEHOLD UNDER GOD, AND MY MOTHER UNDER HIM AND FOR MY MOTHER TO TREAT DADDY WITH THE RESPECT HE DESERVES. AND, THERE IS STILL NO RESPECT AFTER 49 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. I AM NOT SURE HOW THEY HAVE STAYED MARRIED THIS LONG. I TRULY BELIEVE HE HAS NOT LEFT HER BECAUSE IT IS LITERALLY CHEAPER TO KEEP HER OPPOSED TO PAYING LAWYERS TO SETTLE THE ESTATE. I THINK THAT IS SO SAD AS WE ONLY GET ONE LIFE. IT IS MY UNDERSTANDING THAT BEHIND CLOSED DOORS MATTERS ARE A LOT WORSE FROM WHAT MY DAD TELLS MY SISTER ME. PLEASE DO NOT VENT TO YOUR CHILDREN ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE AS IT TEARS THEIR HEART OUT TRYING TO CHOSE SIDES. DO NOT DO IT! THE LITTLE CHILD INSIDE A 47 YEAR OLD LADY LIKE MYSELF STILL GETS BRUISED AND TERRIBLY EMOTIONALLY ABUSED. IT IS VULGAR FOR A CHILD TO CONTINUE TO SEE THIS TYPE OF BEHAVIOR AFTER THIS MANY YEARS. YELLING AND CURSING DOES BREAK THE SPIRIT OF THE CHILDREN (AND INNOCENT ABSORBING GRANDCHILD) WITNESSING IT! THERE WAS VERY VERY LITTLE MENTION OF GOD IN MY FAMILY HOME WITH NO PRAYER OR BIBLE STUDY. HENCE, THE MAIN PROBLEM!

    THE CHRISTIAN INFORMATION OF TRUTH IN THIS BLOG COULD HAVE POSSIBLY HELPED TO PREVENT MY DIVORCE. I TRULY BELIEVE BECAUSE OF MY MOUTH AND BECAUSE I TREATED MY HUSBAND WITH NO RESPECT … NAG …NAG…NAG (WHICH I LEARNED FROM THE VERY BEST, MY MOTHER) IS WHY HE STRAYED AND LEFT. IGNORANT, I NEVER EVER IMAGINED HE WOULD LEAVE ME BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I KNEW; AND, AFTERALL, MY DADDY STAYED AND TOOK IT. MY ACTIONS WERE SADDLEY NORMAL TO ME.

    IF PRAYER, CHURCH INVOLVEMENT, BIBLE STUDY, AND MY DAD BEING RESPECTED BY MY MOM AND VICE VERSA, I BELIEVE MY SISTER’S TWO DIVORCES WOULD NOT HAVE HAPPENED NOR, MY ONE DIVORCE.

    REGRETFULLY, IN MY PARENT’S HOME, HANGS A SIGN WHICH HAS BEEN HUNG ON THE WALL MY ENTIRE LIFE THRU PRESENT. IT READS “IF MOMMA AIN’T HAPPY AIN’T NOBODY HAPPY!” THAT WAS THE GOSPEL IN MY PARENT’S HOME AND STILL IS. MOTHER TAUGHT US THAT WAS FUNNY ALONG WITH ANOTHER QUOTE “WHAT IS MINE IS MINE AND WHAT IS HIS IS MINE, TOO.” THIS CONSTANTLY PROMPTED FEAR IN MY SISTER AND ME EVERYTIME THEY HAD A RAWL. WE FEARED THEY WOULD PROBABLY DIVORCE. PLEASE DO NOT ARGUE OR QUOTE THINGS LIKE THIS IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILDREN. IT BECOMES A GENERATIONAL BLACK HOLE.

    THE VALUES, CONVICTIONS, EXAMPLES, AND ADVISE ON LIFE LESSONS DOCUMENTED IN THIS PRICELESS BLOG IS FACT AND THE TRUTH! PLEASE TAKE IT SERIOUSLY FOR YOURSELF, MARRIAGE, CHILDREN, GRANDCHILDREN, AND ETC.

    LADIES, ESPECIALLY MARRIED LADIES, OR THOSE THAT DREAM OF BECOMING MARRIED, PLEASE PRINT OUT THE ABOVE BLOG, DATE IT, PRAY OVER OFTEN AS IT IS NOT JUST SOMEONES’ OPINION; THE BLOGGER’S WORDS, IN MY OPINION, ARE THE HONEST TRUTH!

    PRAISE GOD THAT YOU HAVE FOUND THIS BLOG, AND PLEASE PRAY FOR A REVIVAL IN OUR MARRIAGES TODAY. BE VERY AWARE OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITY AS A PROVERS 31 WOMAN. AND, I STRONGLY ENCOURAGE YOU TO FIND A TITUS 2 MENTOR.

    I OWN THE MISTAKES I MADE IN MY MARRIAGE. MY HUSBAND HAD A 12 MONTH AFFAIR WHICH I HAD NO CLUE WHATSOEVER OF. HE GOT THE WOMAN PREGNANT, LEFT ME, AND MARRIED HER. WE HAD BEEN MARRIED AND TRYING REGULARLLY TO GET PREGNANT FOR 8 YEARS. BUT, I TRUST GOD AS THE LORD ALWAYS KNOWS BEST!!! THE REST OF THE STORY IS THAT THEY ARE STILL MARRIED AND HAVE A TEENAGE SON AND DAUGHTER. IT IS THE YEAR 2013, AND HE LEFT IN 1997. BUT IT OFTEN FEELS LIKE ONLY YESTERDAY.

    AGAIN, PLEASE, PRINT, ABSORB, AND MARINATE IN THE HIGH QUALITY INFORMATION IN THIS BLOG. HOLY GHOST FILLED WOMEN SEEK GOD’S FACE, POUR ALL THINGS OUT TO THE LORD AS HE WAITS QUIETLY TO HEAR FROM US. I ONCE HEARD IT SAID, “GO TO THE THRONE BEFORE GOING TO THE TELEPHONE.” I REALLY APPRECIATE THAT PHRASE FOR A LOT OF REASONS, BUT MOST OF ALL BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT I BELIEVE GOD WANTS US TO DO. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT NOT TO TALK TO A FRIEND AND PUT YOUR HUSBAND DOWN AS THAT IS NOT HONORING HIM. UNFORTUNATELY, IT HAS BEEN MY EXPERIENCE THAT PEOPLE DO NOT REALLY CARE ABOUT YOUR MARRIAGE PROBLEMS, BUT THEY DO ENJOY GOSSIPING TO OTHERS ABOUT WHAT YOU SHARED. YES, TOO OFTEN AMONG CHRISTIANS EVEN IN THE CHURCH I HAVE EXPERIENCED GOSSIP SPREAD THROUGH WHAT SHOULD BE SCARED. IT IS CALLED A PRAYER REQUEST.

    HOW ABOUT WE ALL TRY VERY HARD TO LEARN FROM THIS BLOGGER’S FREE GOD-CENTERED TRUTH! AND, YES, THAT INCLUDES MEE, TOO.

    I DO NOT WANT ANOTHER WOMAN TO SUFFER SHOCK, GRIEF, AND PAIN LIKE I DID. AS THE OLD SAYING GOES “WE CANNOT PUT AN OLD HEAD ON YOUNG SHOULDERS” IS THE TRUTH. PLEASE DO NOT READ THIS BLOG AS JUST SOMETHING ELSE TO DELETE TO CLEAN OUT JUNK E-MAIL AS IT IS PRICELESS! TO GOD BE ALL THE GLORY AND I EARNESTLY PRAY FOR MARRIAGES TODAY. BE AWARE AND H.A.L.T.: IF YOU FIND YOURSELF HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY, OR TIRED AS THAT IS WHEN SATAN TRIES HIS VERY BEST TO TRIGGER DISFUNCTION IN A MARRIAGE. LORD PLEASE CAUSE A REVIVAL IN THIS LAND, OUR MARRIAGES, AND MORALS. THANK YOU TO THIS BLOGGER. AMEN AND AMEN


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