Three Kinds of Men ~


Three Kinds of Men

Key  point #1……   A Wise Woman learns to adapt to her husband.

Men are not all the same. I have become aware that there are basically three types of men. As you review the types, you will probably readily identify your husband and be able to see where you have been a curse or a blessing to him.

Key point #2 ……… Wisdom is knowing what you “bought” when you married that man, and learning to adapt to him as he is, not as you want him to be.


God is dominant- a sovereign and all-powerful God.  A few men are born with more than their share of dominance and, on the surface, a deficit on gentleness.  These types of men often end up in positions that command other men.  They are born leaders, preachers and heads of corporations. Command Men usually do more than is required of them.

Characteristics of Command Men

  • Known for expecting their wives to wait on them hand and foot
  • Does not want his wife involved in any project that prevents her from serving him
  • Wife needs to learn how to make an appeal without challenging his authority
  • They have less tolerance
  • A woman can fight until she is blue in the face, yet the Command Man will not yied
  • He is not as intimate or vulnerable as are other men in sharing her personal feelings
  • He seems to be sufficient unto himself
  • A woman married to a Command man has to earn her place in his heart by proving that she ill stand by her man, faithful, loyal, and obedient.
  • When she has won his confidence, he will treasure her to the extreme.
  • She is on call every minute of her day
  • He wants to know where she is, what she is doing, and why she is doing it
  • He corrects her without thought, for better or for worse, it is his nature
  • A Command Man will not take the trash out, as a general rule he will command someone else to do it

A woman married to a Command Man wears a heavier yoke than most women, but it can be a very rewarding yoke.  In a way, her walk as his help meet is easier because there is never any possibility of her being in control.  There are no gray areas, she always knows exactly what is required of her, therefore she has a calm sense of safety and rest.

Key Point #3 – A King wants a Queen, which is why a man in command wants a faithful wife to share his fame and glory.

If you are married to a king, honor and reverence is something you MUST give him on a DAILY basis if you want HIM to be a benevolent, honest, strong, and fulfilled man of God.  He has the potential to become an amazing leader. Never shame him, and DO NOT belittle him or ignore his accomplishments.


God is very visionary. He made some men in this image and likeness as well. Prophets are usally this type of men. Some of you are married to men who are shakers, changers, and dreamers.

Key point # 1……. Learn how to be flexible, and learn how to always be loyal to your man.

Characteristics of Visionary Men:

  • Visionaries are often very gifted men or inventors
  • Can be street preachers, political activists, organizers, and instigators of any front-line social event
  • They love confrontation!! A good argument to share HIS ideas
  • These men keep the rest of the world from getting stagnant or dull
  • He has a NEED to communicate with his words, music, writings, voice or actions
  • Needs a good, wise, prudent , stable wife who has a positive outlook on life
  • Is usually rich or poor, but rarely middle-class
  • Will invest everything at a chance and lose it all or make a fortune
  • IF he works a job he will either not show up half the time or else work like a maniac  80 hrs
  • He may never be rich in money, but he will be rich in experience
  • They love to hash over ideas, plans, and dreams
  • He will have 1000 ideas for every idea he attempts
  • He rarely finishes a project, but don’t try to change him- it doesn’t work !!
  • A visionary man will take the trash out “if he remembers”
  • Always inventing a better way
  • Needs a wife who does not take offense easily, she needs to be tough

The wife of a Visionary Man should be a little bit reckless and blind in one eye, if she is going to enjoy the ride.  If this is your man, you need to learn two very important things. 1. Learn to be flexible, and 2. Learn how to be loyal to your man.  You will be amazed at how much happier you will be and how much fun life can be if you learn to just go with the flow – his flow.  Life will become an adventure.  You will actually feel sorry for the gals married to the stick in the mud.


God is steady as an eternal rock, caring, providing, and faithful. He has created many men in this image. The Steady Man does not make snap decisions or spend his last dime on a new idea, not given to extremes, and he doesn’t tell other men what to do. He doesn’t invent the light bulb, but he will be the one to build the factory and manage the assembly line that produces the light bulb.

Being married to MR STEADY has its rewards and its trials.  On the good side, your husband never puts undue pressure on you to perform miracles.  He doesn’t expect you to be his servant.

When you are married to a man who is steady and cautious, and you have a bit of the impatient romantic in you, you may not see his worth and readily honor him.  You may be discontent because he is slow and cautious to take authority and make quick decisions. A bossy woman sees her husband’s lack of hasty judgment and calls her husband “wishy-washy”.

Characteristics of MR STEADY MAN:

  • His steadiness makes him the last to change
  • They are odd or stand out men
  • They are not loud
  • They are neither irritating nor particularly magnificent
  • He will never brag on himself and typically is poor at “selling himself” and his skills
  • It is your job to speak highly of him and “sell him” until he is convinced and aware that he is the skillful professional they have been looking for
  • He might even cry during times of stress or intimacy
  • He is very very slow to come to trust and open up to a woman
  • Mr. Steady is always in demand. People everywhere need him to fix a car, etc, etc
  • You will begin to wonder if you will ever have him to yourself
  • He belongs to people
  • He enjoys the company of others but is most comfortable spending time in small talk with whoever is around
  • He is a manly, steady fellow
  • They make wise, well-thought out decisions
  • Their loyalty is strong, they are rarely rash or foolish
  • Mr Steady will take the trash out and always keep the area clean, yet his wife will be prone to take his goodness for granted

The Steady Man is wonderful with those who are hurt, sick, or dying.  He loves to comfort and seems to know what a person needs in times of great sorrow. His still, quiet presence brings peace.

Who is your Man?

Make a list of your husband’s traits – things that indicate which of the three types he most expresses.  It may be a combination, with one more dominant.  Now, begin a list of things you can do that will set him free to be the man God made him to be.

“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world; but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is good, and acceptable and perfect will of God”.    Romans 12:1-2

Ask God to give you wisdom to see where YOU need to change to be the perfect help meet for your divinely designed man.

NOTE:  Keep in mind that most men are a little of all three types, but tend to be stronger in one.

Taken from: Created to Be His Help Meet by, Debi Pearl    

 Typed and edited by, Teresa Haley 2013

Published in: on February 14, 2013 at 1:00 am  Leave a Comment  

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