7 Steps to Wisdom~

This was good food for thought. I found it in my book “A Woman’s High Calling” by Eliz. George
Hope it encourages you today !

~Teresa

SEVEN STEPS TO WISDOM

Step 1 – STOP

Step 2 – WAIT

Step 3 – PRAY

Step 4 – SEARCH THE SCRIPTURES

Step 5 – ASK FOR WISE COUNSEL

Step 6 – MAKE A DECISION

Step 7 – CREATE A PLAN

“My dear friend, I cannot begin to tell you how valuable these steps have been to me over the years! It’s impossible to count how many times they have saved me from sinning, from stubling, or from making a foolish decision or statement. They haved served me well and also the many women I’ve shared then with over the years. They suffice for the smallest decisions right up the scale to the earth-shattering, life changing ones !”

~ Elizabeth George

Published in: on April 28, 2010 at 8:58 pm  Comments (1)  

Sidetracked Tips ~


~Tips for Not Getting Sidetracked
Are you getting sidetracked? Do you feel like you are not making progress? This is required reading – once per week! Have you read this? – FlyLady

Let’s start when our feet hit the floor. No, let’s back up to the night before, just prior to bedtime.

~Did you do your “Before Bed Routine”?
The beauty of the Before Bedtime Routine is that you are one step ahead on the day. It only takes a few minutes once you get started. Reviewing the cards and calendar last keeps it fresh in your mind for the morning. When you wake up you know what has to be done.

~Did you do your “Good Morning Routine”?
Dawn has broken. There is nothing better than to stay in bed half the morning! I don’t think so. Remember how guilty you feel when you do? Most of us are forced into a not-so-good-morning. We do this to ourselves, by not getting enough rest. As a result we wake up grumpy and dragging. Our happiness depends on getting proper rest. Get up 15 minutes early and give yourself a good start with the “Good Morning Routine”!

~Kitchen Tips:
Let’s talk about the kitchen for a while. If the kitchen is clean, the rest of the house stays clean, too. In other words, As the kitchen goes, so goes the rest of the house. Consider this: broken windows in a city. If a broken window is left unrepaired, the neighborhood goes down the drain. Crime rates go up and other building fall apart, but if these windows are fixed immediately, the neighborhood is not affected. Or shall we say infected. A dirty kitchen infects the remaining rooms. Strive to keep the kitchen tidy.

~Empty dishwasher first thing upon entering the kitchen. (This way you always have a place for dirty dishes.)
Always keep the sink spotless and shining. (If the sink is clean you are less likely to put a dirty dish in it.)
Use a clean dish cloth and dish rag every day.
Get in the habit of drying your sink after every use (with the clean dish towel).
Fill sink with hot soapy water when you start to cook. (This helps to clean as you go.) My Granny taught me this. If you don’t, the dishes pile up! Swish them good and put them in the dishwasher. The counter stays clear and when you are through cooking all you have to do is load the dishwasher with the china.
Throw trash and recyclables away as you empty the container.
Shut the cabinet doors.
Keep a can of Comet, bottle of Windex, and cleaning towels handy (for the little spritz that keeps things shiny)
Make table clearing everyone’s job. Have each person take their own plate to the kitchen. They rake their scraps into the compost bin and put their plate into the dishwasher. This is something else children can do!

~Menu planning:
This is tough! Try this: take a calendar and list every meal you cook for a month. At the end of a month you will have a journal of what to fix. From this journal you can make out menu cards and a grocery list. Don’t forget to list what you ate at the restaurants, too; that is a menu as well. Once you have the right food in your house, you are more apt to cook it. Knowing what is planned for the day helps to keep you on track. Our biggest problem is that if we have to think aboutwhat to cook, we will probably go out.

~Keep a grocery list and hi-lighter on your refrigerator. The grocery list is a list of everything you buy for the home. You can compile it in categories, alphabetically, or how your grocery store is laid out. Whatever works for you – perhaps categories such as fresh veggies and fruit, canned veggies and other, meat, milk products, etc. When you are running low just hi-light it on your list, then take the list to the grocery on your shopping day.

~Another tip: Clean the refrigerator out the day before you go grocery shopping. This gives you a neat place to put your food. Besides, it’s easier to clean when the refrigerator is empty.
Also, don’t forget to put the groceries away as you bring them into the house. (This keeps the counters clear, and you do not feel overwhelmed by all those groceries that need to be put away.) It goes without saying, bring the meat and refrigerator stuff in first.

~Paper pile ups:
Mail – often a big pile up problem! This works – the “DO IT NOW PRINCIPLE” (from the FlyLady’s Dear Husband):
Go through the mail as soon as you bring it in the house.
Only open it with your calendar, cards, and garbage can at your side. (This cuts down on handling it twice.)
Have one place for bills. And put them there!
Have a day for paying them and stick to it. FlyLady’s date with her bills: on the 1st and 15th of each month.
Reconcile your bank statement the day you get it.
Put sale papers, advertisments, and catalogs by your chair, so you can look at them when you deserve a break. Do not let them pile up! Look at them the next time you sit down and have your scissors, grocery list, and garbage can handy.
By the way, the “Do It Now Principle” works for most everything (not just mail!)

~The Laundry: Do You Know Where Your Laundry Is?
Go! Give your laundry the attention it deserves. If not you will pay later. It will grow up and get out of hand. Here are some tips:
#Sorting: If we have to sort the dirty clothes it may take longer to put a load in the washer. We might decide not to do it at all. Try this: have three baskets in the closet or wherever you keep dirty clothes. One for whites, colored, and one for good clothes that you don’t want to wash with the other things. As you undress, place the dirty clothes in the proper basket. Then hang up the items that can be worn again. The “Do It Now Principle” kicks in. Even little children can be taught this!
#Washing: Only do a load if you have time to do everything: wash, dry, fold, and put away.
#Drying: Always take the clothes out of the dryer the minute you hear the buzzer. This saves you from ironing.
#Folding: Fold up the clothes as soon as you get them from the dryer.
#Putting the clothes away: No one likes to live out of a laundry basket. Have a place for everything. Even if you have to label the drawers for a while until you get used to putting them in their own place.

~More Laundry Hints
Buy low maintenance clothing.
Buy several pair of socks that are the same color. They will match easier.
When you take off socks make sure they are right side out.

~Bathroom tips:
Keep a toilet bowl brush beside the commode
Keep Windex bottle, paper towels, and Comet handy. This means one for each bathroom, so you can clean without even thinking about it.
Polish bathroom sink daily. The same principle holds in the bathroom as in the kitchen.

~Bedroom Tips (for cleaning – LOL):
Get in the habit of making up the bed as soon as possible – the minute your dear husband gets up. This will keep you from going back to bed.
Feather Dust daily.
Lint roller: for those of us that have pets that shed.

~Living room / Dining room / Family room Hints:
Throw newspaper away daily.
Feather dust daily.
Straighten Cushions on the couch.
Put things away when you finish with them.
Don’t take your shoes off in the livingroom.

~The Car:
Keep it empty. This is hard – unload it every time you get out.
Don’t eat in the car. This way you don’t have trash to throw away.
Always fill up with gas. It saves time in the long run.
Check oil weekly.

~Craft projects.
Only drag out enough to finish in the time allotted. Unless you have a room just for that purpose. Then put things away in a neat fashion.
Put it away as soon as you finish.

~Staying with this system.
Establish a goal and work toward it. Set a timer if you have to.
Establish a routine to your daily chores. By the time you get to the kitchen, half of your work may be done. The routine keeps you from having to think about what to do next.
Establish a new habit each month. It takes 21 day to form a habit.

Published in: on April 27, 2010 at 8:28 pm  Leave a Comment  

Respecting Husbands ~

I pray you are all doing well today 🙂 This is a small portion of a tract that I was re-reading this week and it arrested my attention again and I wanted to share it with you. Truly this is an area where wives are struggling today, I believe. Our enemy would like nothing more than to defeat us in this area of our marriages and in our homes. My prayer today is that we would all take a fresh look at respecting the wonderful man has given each of us ( or will give us, for single girls ) and to truly give him honor and respect today. Also, God loves a repentant heart: I encourage you to repent if you need too, I know I have.
I love you all ~

Sincerely yours ,
Teresa Haley

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THE SPECIAL DUTY OF A WIFE : RESPECT
taken from – The Duties of Husbands and Wives by Richard Steele, Puritan

This is her special qualification. If she has all beauty and learning but no respect for her husband, she is not a good wife.
Even if she is the sweetest thing and her husband is the meanest, she still has a duty to respect him.
First, she must fix her heart that her position is inferior to his, and then she will be able to fulfill all respect implies with ease and delight.
It is not fitting to set the rib above, or even on the same level with the head.

HOW ????
~She highly esteems him.
~Ponder the excellence of his person, and value it properly.
~Dearly love him.
~Diligently please him.
~The word “respect” in Ephs. 5:33 means “fear”.
~Maintain chaste conduct around him.
~Her submission is to be like the church to Christ’s submission.
~In everything, great and small, agreeable and disagreeable to her.
~The wife should submit to her husband as if there were but one will in their two hearts.
~Grudging obedience is unacceptable, and usually springs from her unmortified pride and self-conceit.
~It is better for you to do your duty, and leave his judgment to God.
~She speaks respectfully of him in his absence.

Be careful with interrupting him while he is speaking.
Silence commends a woman’s wisdom more than speech.
The wise woman uses words wisely.
Beware of using a disrespectful tone or words.
Strive for a gentle and quiet spirit.
No woman gets honor by having the last word.

Some woman argue that their tongue is their only weapon, but the wise know that their tongue is set on fire by hell (James 3:6)
She asks his counsel and hears his reproofs.

Her hardest task is in hearing a reproof lovingly and thankfully, especially if she has a proud and contentious spirit.
So to answer him harshly for reproof shows great ingratitude.

If she really respects him, this will be a much easier pill to swallow.

Conclusion:

Some will disregard all this counsel with the excuse that none can attain it, but this mocks God. He will punish all such. If His vengeance does not meet you in this life, as it often does the rebellious, then it will in another. A true Christian is marked by a fundamental submission to biblical counsel; without this, you are mere hypocrites.

Richard Steele, Puritan

Published in: on April 20, 2010 at 4:36 pm  Comments (2)  

Orderliness ~

Hope this blesses you today. It came from my book “The Power of Motherhood” by Nancy Campbell

A Home of Order

God wants everything in order. I believe that our homes should be in order. When there is order there is peace. It is important for the mother to get up early to organize the day for her family. This kind of home will give security and peace to children.

I believe it is important to establish schedules in the home. There should be set times for mealtimes and for bed times. Children shouldn’t be allowed to eat when they like or go to bed when they like. It is important to eat together at certain times, especially for the main meal of the day.

Of course, it takes discipline to keep order in the home. We can’t keep an ordered home, if we are not ordered and disciplined ourselves. A mother’s day must start early if she is to keep it running smoothly.

However, in establishing this principle, we must also give room for spontaneity! It is the spice of life. The schedules of the home are the underlying foundation which give order and security but we become legalists if we cannot change our schedules to accommodate changes. It is fun to do things on “the spur of the moment:! Children can always sleep in on the morning after a late night for something special.

Ecclesiates 10:18

“By much slothfulness the building decays, and through idleness of hands the house drops through.”

Published in: on April 19, 2010 at 11:51 pm  Comments (1)  

Role of Homemaking ~

Homemaking — an Honorable Role

Where do you work?

The question may be a simple one, but some women dread to answer it. Why? They are among those who have chosen to be full-time homemakers.
But these individuals need not be embarrassed. God has blessed motherhood and the raising of children from the very beginning of time. A woman can fill no greater role than preparing the next generation for life’s responsibilities. The future of any nation rests in the laps of its mothers.
Regrettably, society in general has rejected the Bible as its moral authority. As a result, homemaking and motherhood are undervalued. Feminists would have us believe that women need to be “freed” from some imaginary trap called motherhood. Television and the mass media have done much to destroy Biblical family values and make motherhood appear drab or even selfish.

~Some mothers choose to pursue glamorous careers. Others say they must work to make ends meet. For whatever reason, having a job is considered both necessary and normal. Day-care centers have sprung up to provide for children of working mothers. But increasing juvenile delinquency, violence, crime, and disrespect for authority prove that something is wrong. Humanity apparently has fallen victim to its own philosophy regarding the home and family. Society’s very foundations appear to be crumbling.
Yet there is hope. The Bible outlines a successful plan.

~First, God designed marriage as a pure and holy way to bring children into this world (Genesis 1:28). Today selfishness leads many couples to postpone or avoid altogether the responsibility of having children in order to follow their own material interests and pleasures. But those things are only temporal. Children are eternal souls, God’s greatest gift to the home. “Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD” (Psalm 127:3).

~Second, God expects parents to raise their children in a disciplined manner (Ephesians 6:1-4). They need much more care and training than animals do. Their development occurs over a period of approximately twenty years. This places a serious responsibility on parents, one that is practically impossible to fulfill when both parents work full-time elsewhere.

~Third, God expects family life to be homelife. If home is to be more than a “motel,” someone must look after the details of homemaking.
Naturally, mothers are often best suited for this role because God has endowed them with the tender qualities needed for the job. God expects mothers to guide the house (1 Timothy 5:14), and He alone can enable mothers for the rigor of homemaking.

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taken from my Rod and Staff tract

Published in: on April 13, 2010 at 6:59 pm  Comments (1)  

Supermom Syndrome~

taken from my book : The Proverbs 31 Homemaker pg 44 & 45

Be encouraged ~
Teresa

The Supermom Syndrome
by Jennifer McHugh

Speedier than a 2 year old child. More powerful than a blender. She can wash tall piles of clothes in a single load. Look up in the attic- It’s a cook – It’s a maid – no It’s A Supermom!

Do you ever fall into the trap of Supermom? I think I should have the perfect child, fix gourmet dinners every night, and meet my husband at the door looking like a glamorous model as Mr. clean stands in the background with his arms folded and a big smile on his face. Mrs. Cleaver wouldn’t hold a candle on me!

Do you ever feel this way? I lie awake at night trying to plan how I will get all my many tasks done as well as spend quality time with my husband and children. If we try to be Supermom, the kryptonite of overcommitment will kill us. We may keep up this feverish pace for a while, but eventually we are doing no task well because we are burned out.

Some Supermom symptoms are:

Spending less quality time with God.
Losing sight of why I stay at home.
Putting too many things on my “to do” list.
Expecting my child to be Supergirl or boy.
Always having a spotless house.
Being on everybody’s volunteer list.
Allowing no time for spontaneity.
What’s the solution, Supermom? How can we be everything God wants us to be without getting burned out?

Each homemaker has been called to serve God in her own way. Yes, we are all homemakers, but we have different strengths. We need to go to the Lord and ask Him exactly what He wants us to be doing. When we put out Creator first and give Him our best, He will show us what we should do and where our priorities should be.

So take time with the Lord and remember why you are called to work in the home. Cut out some “to-do’s” have realistic expectations. It’s okay if you haven’t vacuumed today. Only one person was perfect on this earth: Jesus. Don’t beat yourself up. When all is said and done, what really matters?

Ask God what He wants you to be and spend time daily talking with Him about it, and He will tell you how to be “Super” in Him.

Published in: on April 9, 2010 at 3:35 am  Comments (2)  

Juicy Gossip ~

How can I avoid gossiping?

1. Think godly thoughts about others.
2. Agree with friends and family not to gossip.
3. Avoid settings that lead to gossip.
4. Never name names.
5. Say nothing.

How to eliminate gossip in our lives:

1. No idle time.
2. Be wise in phone conversations, cut it short or have answering machine take messages.
3. Don’t waste time in wasteful talking. Also don’t talk too much. (Proverbs 10:19)
4. Don’t answer things hastefully, you can take time to answer questions by saying you need to pray about your answer.

Some wise advice:

1. Remember the source of slander—the devil.
2. Realize the causes–hatred, jealousy, envy, an evil eye and heart.
3. Choose your company carefully–isolate yourself if you must.
4. Choose activities carefully.
5. Praise only.
6. Pray for yourself in this area and for others who harm you.
7. Deal with gossip as sin.

What do I do when others gossip?

1. Leave the scene.
2. Declare your discomfort. “I’m sorry, maybe it’s me, but I’m not comfortable with this conversation. Could we please change the subject?”
3. Guard you facial expressions. Ex:Rolling our eyes, shaking our heads, raising our eyebrows this can smear others reputations too, or plant seeds of doubt in others minds.
4. Be ready with a positive phrase or two: ex: “We must pray for her.”, etc.

Let’s use our tongues to glorify God and nurture a heart of love towards others.

Published in: on April 8, 2010 at 10:52 pm  Comments (1)  

Foolish Woman ~

The Foolish Woman

“Every wise woman buildeth her house; but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.” Proverbs 14:1

I think we can all agree that none of us wants to be the foolish woman described in Proverbs 14. There are the obvious things such as anger and arguing, but what are some everyday things that we overlook and are not so obvious that might be tearing down our homes without us knowing? Let us take a look:

1. Putting other things before God.

2. Children more important than husband. Husband neglected.

3. Ministry at church (or other things) becomes an idol and first priorities are disregarded.

4. Not staying within your budget.

5. Downcast countenance.

6. Discontentment with the Lord’s provisions.

7. Listening to lies from the enemy.

8. Being enticed by the world (through music, media, magazines, tv shows, you name it)

9. Focus on self or self pity.

10. Not asking husband before taking on new things.

11. Not managing our homes well.

12. Neglecting to train our children.

13. Never being home.

13. Gossip and slander.

14. Not filtering everything through scripture.

15. Coming up with excuses as to why we do the above.

This list is not obviously not exhaustive as many more could be added to it. But I see these as being some of the main areas women struggle with. This list is not meant to discourage but instead it can be a starting point for assessing how we live our lives on a day-to-day basis. When we are actively’plucking down our homes’ we are not exalting God. Titus 2 actually teaches women to be ‘discreet, chaste, keepers at home, obedient to their own husbands so that the word of God be not blasphemed.’

Amazing, is it not, to think that our actions are so powerful that they can actually exalt God or blashpheme His Word. I don’t want to go through life knowing that I had a hand in blaspheming His Holy Word. Back in biblical times, people were stoned for being blasphemers!!! Instead of being in the category of those being stoned, us woman can be home builders. Home builders who lift up the Word of God just not in word but in deed. See, our lives need to preach the gospel. We can talk until we are blue in the face but are actions are louder than words. Actions require commitment and self government. Actions require servanthood and a dying to self.

So where ever you might be on this list, ladies—-let us strive to be Home Builders. Building up our homes for Christ and His glory alone.

“The beginning of wisdom is: Acquire wisdom; And will all your acquiring, get understanding. Prize her, and she will exalt you; She will honor you if you embrace her. She will place on your head a garland of grace. She will present you with a crown of beauty.” Proverbs 4:7-9

by Mrs. June Fuentes at Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Published in: on April 1, 2010 at 6:09 pm  Comments (2)