Spanking Children ~

Spanking Children
by: Mrs. Teresa Haley 2010

This topic is very touchy for some people. For the ones that had an abusive childhood they will have a difficult understanding a good strong Biblical spanking. Also the ones that were raised with very permissive parents that never spanked will not understand completely, either. But, I believe it is a real disadvantage for children to be raised without proper Biblical spanking and it reaps a generation that will find it very hard to submit their will to our Heavenly Father.

But I am going to try to talk from my point of view. First, I would like to thank my God for two very stable minded parents that were very good disciplinarians. They did not do a perfect job, no parent does, but I want to believe that they raised me to be very well established with a good since of personal respect and discipline. For that I am very glad. It has guided me in the raising of our two children.

The Lord blessed my husband and I with twins our first pregnancy. So it was sink or swim when it came to child training. I read every book and training manual I could get my hands on. But, I think the best book of all by far was the Book of Proverbs. There is where I found the rock on which to stand when it came to spanking and training our children.

A few of my favorites are:

Prov. 3:11,12
My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, neither be weary of his correction.

Prov. 13:24
He that spareth his rod hateth his son; but he that loveth him chastenth him betimes.

Prov. 22:15
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Prov. 23: 13-14
Withold not correction from the child; for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Prov. 29:17
Correct thy son, and he shall give thee rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul.

At what age should you spank?
I think tha when a young baby around 5 to 6 months starts to refuse to lay still for a diaper change is when the first signs of willfulness appears. Have you ever seen it? They try to roll over and over refusing to lay still and be changed. The parent is wrestling with the baby !!! This is when training the will of the baby should begin. You do not need a heavy rod at this age. But, they do need pain inflicted to trigger their brains that this is an undesirable behavior and it is more advantageous to not do it for their own sakes. So what do you do? Either a light swat with the hand or if you do not want to use the hand you can use a lightweight paint stick or rubber spatula. The key here is to sting but not to bruise.
If you wait until the child has been doing this behavior for months and months you will have a much bigger battle. You will have to swat every diaper change until they are submissive. Early training is always the more peaceful way !!!!

When to get a bigger paddle?
Usually when they start walking and running away from you is a good time to upgrade the paddle. If you child is touching things that you have said “NO” to then it is time to train. They are disobeying you. They will eventually do it on purpose again. Early training is the most peaceful way!!!!when we are not consistent with our expectations they make a pattern immediately. Just a few days of inconsistency can wreck good discipline. This is why your children need to be with you as much of the time as possible. Time spent away lessons your training effectiveness in their early childhood training.

I recommend these upgrades on paddles:
light weight rubber spatula – 6 month to 1 – 1/2 yr
light weight wooden spoon – 1 -1/2 to 2 1/2 yr
ping pong paddle – 3 – to 4 yr or small built 5 yr olds
5 gallon paint stick – 5 yr to about 7 or so
long thick gourmet wooden wide spoon or 1/2 inch dowel rod, 2 ft long – 8 yrs – 12 yrs

By age 12 or 13 the spanking will begin to phase out if you have trained faithfully in the younger years. But I spanked ours on occasion when they were 13 and 14 yrs old. If you do not get serious about spanking until they are 8 yrs old you are going to have a tough battle for their wills. It is not impossible but get ready for a lot of work. It is always worth it to train them no matter what their age. The Bible says it will save their soul from hell !!!!!

My final thoughts:
Never is it OK to slap a child across the face. A small pop on the lips is in order when they are older and begin to be sassy/sharp with their tongue.
Never beat a child in public. Go to a private place even at home. A bedroom or bathroom. Away from others that are watching.
Be willing to leave the store if necessary to take care of it.
Don’t take them in the store or restaurant when they are out of sorts. Spank first to set them in order even if there is not an offense that you can put your finger on. It pays great dividends when you are in there for a long time. So worth it.
Don’t let relatives or friends hinder you from spanking a child that needs it. Excuse yourself, handle it in private and then return to the group.
Please don’t ignore a child that is screaming for a spanking !!!! Everyone wants you to do it !!!! So take the time for their own good.
It is a poor Christian witness to take an untrained child in a public place and start training in public and drawing attention, SHAME !!!!!!
Pray before spanking the child and then do a good job.
Make it sting on purpose. If they are still fighting or wrestling you are not done. Heat is up hotter until the will is broken and peace returns to the child.

Be encouraged that all good and noble parents have been down this road and have had this job of spanking to do. The parents that have done a poor job are the ones that deemed it too much work and trouble. They wanted peace at any cost so they were permissive. They are the ones that will pay dearly in their adult children and possibly their grandchildren.

Recommended reading List:

~ To Train Up a Child, Michael & Debi Pearl
~What the Bible says about…Child Training, Richard Fugate
~Proverbs for Parenting, Barbara Decker w/ Lynn’s bookshelf
~Under loving Command, Pat Fabrizio

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Published in: on March 12, 2010 at 5:10 pm  Comments (2)  

2 CommentsLeave a comment

  1. Very good – thank you

  2. Awful, and your moderation of comments means you have removed any which do not agree with your own personal way of aggressive parenting. Get real.


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